Saturday, March 21, 2015

Help! My Child Won't Take Her Medicine!

As I write this post I am sitting downstairs in my dining room listening to my daughter alternate between sobbing and screaming at the top of her lungs from her bedroom. I am both furious with her and worried for her, and also heartbroken at this situation. I'm trying my hardest to stay calm in front of her and not break down, but it is so hard I have to just walk away many times. Maybe some of you can relate, and might have some advice. Maybe if you read this you've experience something similar and will know that you're not the only one out there. Here's the deal:

Currently my 9 year old daughter has pneumonia. She hadn't really been feeling great for a few weeks (which has contributed to me not doing any blogging whatsoever), and I chalked it up to allergies and a little bit of drama. Total mom fail. I finally took her to the doctor on Tuesday, and he said pneumonia. We got three different prescriptions and instructions to limit activity for a while. Scary, sure. But manageable, right? We hit the pharmacy, got some froyo and headed home. That's where it got tricky.

Medicine time. Ugh. Most parents hate this I'm sure. Seems like most kids out there are not big fans of taking medicine. Mine never has been. It's always a fight. But this time was just......crazy. I don't know what else to call it. So, she did Albuterol just fine. She did the Prednisolone liquid with some drama, but got it down. Next came the Amoxicillin. Oh. My. Gosh. In all of my research the last few days, I read that most kids actually like the taste of Amoxicillin! Mine is not one of those kids. Go figure. She started out pretty normal She smelled it, made a face, smelled it again, started whining. Dragged out the process for about half an hour. Finally swallowed half a dose, then promptly threw it right back up. Crap. This is going to be harder than I thought. Now she's starting to panic. Shes shaking and crying, and breathing really hard and fast. Sobbing that she just can't do it. We tried explaining to her that she had to take it if she wanted to get better. That it would only taste bad for a second. She could wash it down with ice cream if she wanted. We went round and round like this for about an hour. Finally the hubs made a deal with her. If she took her medicine, he'd take a shot of Jack Daniels (at this point, I could have used that shot, and I don't really drink). For some crazy reason this worked, and with a little more prodding, she finally got the dreaded medicine down. And hubs took his shot like a champ, by the way. :)  This whole process took a couple of hours, and by the end we were all drained. I thought the worst was over and it would be easier from there on out. Ha! Silly me....

Look at this sweet face! How could anything this adorable cause this much chaos? I love her so much it hurts.

Wednesday morning comes. Here we go again. Just as bad this time. Worse actually. She threw up the first attempt-again. So what is the best way to handle a child that just refuses to take medicine? I tried patience and sympathy. I tried tough love. I tried bribery. I tried threats. I tried disguising the medicine with every kind of food or beverage I could think of. She's totally panicking again. I don't think I've ever had a panic attack in my lifetime, but I imagine this is what it looks like. So eventually I gave up. Later that afternoon, and again that evening I tried again, with the same result each time. It was a very long day filled with chaos and screams, and tears from both of us. So we decided to call the doctor and get a new prescription, this time for pills. All afternoon we practiced swallowing things. We started with nerds, then moved on to M&Ms. Then we tried making small balls with American cheese, figuring we could wrap the pills in the cheese to make them easier to swallow. I was optimistic! Silly me.....

The pills were a no go as well. We broke them in half, wrapped them in cheese, wrapped them in fruit roll ups, crushed them up in ice cream, nothing worked. I tried crushing it up in the syrup on her pancakes Thursday morning. I tried mixing it with chocolate milk. More tears, more crazy anxiety. She had cried so much at this point she looked like she had two black eyes. And now not only am I worried about her being sick, I'm also worried about this anxiety. It doesn't seem normal. She says she'd rather have a shot than take the medicine, in any form. Back to the doctor. The doctors all seem reluctant to give the shots unless it absolutely the only option. Apparently it's super painful, and you have to go in three days in a row to get them. This time the doctor told us about a chewable option of a different antibiotic. He gave us a sample in the office so we could make sure she would take it before he wrote the prescription. Guess what? Success! Hallelujah! She had teary eyes, and made it clear it did not taste good, but she swallowed it right there in the office with minimal drama. Score! I was so relieved finally! Silly me....

We had barely made it out of the parking lot before she started getting hysterical again. I told myself if she could chew the medicine in the office she could do it at home, and went ahead and drove to CVS to fill the script. To add more drama to an already rough situation, No CVS in town had this particular medicine in stock. We were at the store for 45 minutes while they checked. I had to get this poor sick girl home, so we let it go for the day.

Friday morning I spent hours on the phone with just about every pharmacy that our insurance will cover. No one has this elusive medicine! GRR, So annoying. Back to the doctor's office, thinking this time it will be the needle. Instead, they were gracious enough to give us some samples of the chewables. Awesome! This is good. These are only a once a day thing. Surely we can handle it after all this. Silly me....

I think Friday night's meltdown may have been the worst since this started. We went in circles for hours. There were calm moments in the midst of the madness, but then they would turn back to the crazy and we would start all over again. "Unhinged" is a word a friend of mine used on facebook, and it's the most accurate I can think of. Friday night was not a good night y'all. There aren't words.

So, today is Saturday, and I didn't push the issue today. She just took her other meds and rested. Hubs and I were, however, able to sneak half a crushed up tablet into her sweet and sour sauce without her knowing! Don't tell, K? A small triumph, but I'll take it, considering the couple of moments I merely mentioned the words "sick" or "medicine", she totally freaked out. I am so tired, and so sad, and so worried, and so lost. I just don't know how to help this kid right now. I feel so helpless. So she's still upstairs, hopefully calming herself down, and I am trying to pull myself together by writing all this out.

Here's my thing. There's stubbornly not wanting to take medicine and making a big dramatic moment out of it, and then there's my child. In my eyes, this is not normal behavior. It scares me. It seems like an anxiety issue that she can't control, rather than a power struggle with a child trying to assert their independence. How do you tell the difference? Seems like most people I know feel like, I'm the parent, I should just be able to make her take the medicine for crying out loud! Trust me, I wish I could. It seems like most people feel like I'm being too soft on her, or that I'm being a pushover and letting her manipulate me. Listen, my daughter is such a good kid. She is so sweet, and wickedly smart. But she can be difficult. She's very strong willed and stubborn, and she does push her boundaries. Quite often in fact. But this feels different to me. This feels like she can't control it. She doesn't want this to happen. She just wants to be well and go about her normal everyday life. And I feel like punishments and negativity are only making things worse in this situation. As moms (and dads), when our kids hurt, we hurt just as bad, if not worse. We just want them to be happy and healthy, and when they're not it breaks our hearts. So, what causes this issue in children, and what can I, as a parent, do to help her?

Getting so personal about my family on this blog is kind of uncomfortable for me. It's scary to put this kind of thing out there. No judgements please. I'm just hoping some of you may have some advice, or stories of your own to share.  If you do, I'd love to hear them! Or maybe you've had a similar experience, and reading this will help you to know that you're not in it alone. Either way, sometimes it just feels better to write things down and share them. I'll keep you updated on our situation. We gotta get this girl well! Now I'm headed upstairs to hug and love on that precious little one.

xo, Summer

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Thursday, March 12, 2015

Some Fun Spring Accessories on my Spring Wish List

We've definitely hit springtime in Las Vegas, and I'm loving every minute of it! Time to pack up the scarves and sweaters and break out the pastels and sandals. Here's a peek at some accessories I'm loving right now, in particular the handbags. What are you loving this spring?

xo, Summer

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Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Two Bachelorettes! What?

So, there's going to be TWO Bachelorette's next season? Huh? I don't understand, and I'm not entirely sure how I feel about this. 

It's not secret that this season on the Bachelor I have been solidly Team Kaitlyn all the way. I love her. So hilarious, and I was totally rooting for her to be the next Bachelorette, because I think she would be so entertaining. It's also no secret that I did not love Britt. I don't dislike her, I just don't love her. Loved her lipstick though, did I mention that? You can read about that here. But I just didn't find her to be as genuine as most of the other girls. So I'm totally torn on my feelings on the Bachelorette casting announcement on After the Final Rose.

Is anyone clear on how exactly this is going to work? Will the guys pick between the two girls on night one, and one lady will go home? Or will they both get to stick around and hand out roses the whole time? Or something in between? I need to know these things Chris Harrison and ABC! You're killing me!
What do you think about having two Bachelorette's? Are you Team Kaitlyn or Team Britt?

xo, Summer

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Bachelor Finale, Finally!

I'm always late with these posts, so by now everyone knows how the Bachelor ended this season, with Chris proposing to Whitney. And let's face it, no one was a bit surprised by this. We all saw it coming from a mile away. She's head over heels crazy about him, and he's just happy someone agreed to move to Arlington. I'm happy for them. They actually seem really happy and I feel like there's a chance they'll make it. I'll keep my fingers crossed for them. The proposal was sweet. I'm rooting for these two!

Before I get to recapping the finale, let's see if I was accurate in my predictions from night one......

My first impression of Carly was not good, and I ended up really liking her. I was right on with Britt. Early frontrunner that would make it pretty far, but not final four. I figured Kaitlyn would make it far, but not as far as she did. Apparently I also liked someone named Tracey. Anyone remember her, because I don't.....Two of my final four predictions were correct. Jade and Becca. The hubs had Megan on that list. Bummer she went home when she did. She was a hoot! Guess who else I picked! Go ahead, guess! Kelsey! Oh my gosh, how off was I? Yikes! She had me fooled y'all! That scares me a little bit. Actually, a lot. She scares me. Anyway, I did not mention Whitney at all after night one. So overall, I did not pick well. Better luck next season I suppose. You can check out my original post here. Moving on!

The final episode began with Whitney going to meet Chris' family. She totally nailed it. First of all, his family is great. I love them, and it looks like Whitney will fit right in. She's not shy about telling everyone who will listen how in love she is whit Farmer Chris. Tears were even shed. She is all in at you guys. The fam is totally won over, but is Chris at this point? It was a little strange that during Whitney's time with his family he talked about Becca on more than one occasion. His dad and brother in law totally noticed, too. Everyone can tell that she's the one he really wants. 

Becca gets her turn to meet the fam day next, and Whitney was a tough act to follow considering how much they adored her. I thought Becca handled herself so well though. I particularly loved her convo with Chris' mom. She was so completely honest about her feelings, and the fact that she's not totally ready to leave everything behind. Once she know she's in love she'll be in 100%, but she's not there yet.

After family time, each girl gets here final one on one date with Chris, and Becca goes first. They just hang out in the hotel room and talk, but it's a conversation that needed to happen. Chris was super confused on where they stood, and frankly, Becca was too. I really felt for both of them. He wanted so bad for her to tell him she was in love with him and ready to move to Arlington to start a family with him, but she couldn't do it. I want to mention that Becca may be one of my new favorite Bachelor contestants. I'm guessing everyone that watches this show has a ton of respect for this girl. I mean, props to her for being smart and practical, and realistic about the situation. She's only known this guy for how long? Of course she's not ready to pack up her life to move for him, especially when she's not even sure she loves him. Chris seemed totally shocked by this by the way. Like, he just couldn't understand how she wasn't nuts for him. I felt bad for Chris watching the episode though. It was so obvious that Becca was the one he really wanted. Not that I don't think he can be happy with Whitney, but I feel like Becca will always be the one that got away.

Whitney's date is next. They go to the farm to harvest corn, and she really looks like she's having a blast and loving it. I think these two are a good match! Again, that night she tells Chris how strong her feelings are for him, and how much she loves him and wants to start a life on the farm with him. She's a sure thing. Becca's a risk.

Rose ceremony time! We all knew Becca wasn't going to get the final rose, but her reaction to being rejected was kind of priceless. Did anyone else see complete relief on her face? No tears, in fact, they smiled and laughed together. Best breakup ever. I think Becca dodged an Arlington bullet. Pretty uneventful. 

Whitney was so confident this whole time, but once she got to the barn she looked a little shaky and uncertain. No, wait, she's just FREAKING FREEZING! I was cold just watching them! Yikes! Chris can finally admit that he's in love with Whitney and he sweetly proposes. Of course she says yes, and they're super cute together, so I hope it lasts.

All in all, a pretty uneventful finale. No surprises, not a lot of drama, just kind I did enjoy it though. I always do. Do you think Chris chose the right girl?

xo, Summer

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Monday, March 9, 2015

Wet n Wild MegaLast Lip Colors

My New Favorite Lipsticks!

I am in love. I have found the most amazing affordable lipsticks. And I have to thank the Bachelor for my new love. 

Everyone's been curious about what lipcolors the ladies have been wearing this season on the Bachelor, in particular Britt and Kaitlyn, but I was particularly inspired by Britt's lips. Does that sound weird? Let me make sure to state that I am not obsessed with Britt, just her lipstick. And her hair. And those turquoise stick earrings. But really, I'm team Carly all the way. Sorry! Anyway, I read somewhere on Twitter last week that Britt's brand of choice was Wet n Wild. To be honest, I didn't even know that brand still existed! But guess what? It does, and it's still super cheap, and they sell it at Walgreen's

The specific product is Wet n Wild MegaLast Lip Color, and it's amazing, and comes in a bunch of awesome colors. I kind of love drugstore makeup, because you can legitimize buying more of it than the expensive brands. Case in point: I bought 7 of these lipcolors. Seven. Slightly excessive I know, BUT! They are only like, $1.99 or something? PLUS! At Walgreen's they were buy on get one 50% off! What??!! So why wouldn't I buy 7 of them? You would too.....

These are just a few of my purchases.
Top Row: Cherry Picking, Sugarplum Fairy, Smokin'Hot Pink
Bottom Row: Don't Blink Pink, Mauve Outta Here
The top three colors are my favorites. They're all actually really similar on. 
Cherry Picking
Sugarplum Fairy.
Smokin' Hot Pink
Could not love this line more. I made a video review, because sometimes it's just easier to explain vocally, ya know? So check it out, but don't judge! It's my first ever video, and I felt super awkward and ridiculous, and hate the way I look and sound on screen, but whatever. In the video 'm wearing Smokin' Hot Pink, just so ya know! Here it is...

So, there you have it! In case you missed it above, the link to purchase them is here. Since this post is Bachelor inspired, I have to mention that I am beyond excited for the finale tonight! And just as excited, if not more, to find out on ATFR who the next Bachelorette will be (team Kaitlyn!). I can't wait to go back tomorrow and reread my first post of the season to see if any of my predictions were accurate!

xo, Summer

UPDATE:  I was WRONG y'all! I took a stab at it, but alas, my colors were not correct. Leave it to Possessionista to find out what we all want to know! She's the best-we all owe her a thank you! For Britt's exact lipcolors, check out her post here. It links to the three colors she wears. Apparently she mixes them. Also, she did another post on several other lipcolors from the season, which is super helpful. You can check that out here. What would we do without Possessionista?

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Sunday, March 8, 2015

Bye Bye Blanket Scarf, Plus My Attempt at Pulling Off Hats....

Vegas weather can be a little bipolar. But I think it's safe to say though that winter here in the desert is officially over. After some mild temps, then a random snow day (what?), we're back in the 70s, and this time it feels like spring has sprung. Which to me means bright colors, florals, and no more coats! I will miss my trusty blanket scarf though. It's been a good friend during the colder months, and it's a little sad to say goodbye. I wore this baby everywhere and with everything. These are just a few of my favorite looks. Also, I tried pulling off the hat thing, which is TOTALLY out of my comfort zone,  and I'm not loving it on me. So disappointing. Looks adorable on everyone else though!

You can purchase identical blanket Scarf options here and here.


Striped Sweater: Target (cute option here) / Jeans:Old Navy / Boots: similar here / Hat: Target / Necklace: Summer Smith Designs / Wooden Bracelets: Summer Smith Designs


 Denim Blouse: Target (similar here) / White Skinnies: H&M / Boots: Kork (similar here) / Bag: Coach (old) / Earrings: Summer Smith Designs


 Striped Dress: Target (similar here) / Ankle boots: Target (similar here) / Clutch: Banana Republic (similar here) / Hat: similar here / Lipstick: NYX Perfect Red

See ya later blanket scarf, bring on spring!

xo, Summer

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